Frequently Asked Questions about Confidence

What does self-acceptance have to do with confidence?

The short answer: Everything!

The detailed answer: If you do not accept yourself, you cannot accept anyone or anything else – including love, wealth, success, fame, fortune, freedom, happiness, peace of mind, or enlightenment – because you feel unworthy of having them.

When you feel unworthy of having what you want, your ego-mind generates procrastination, overwhelm, over-doing, over-giving, and other forms of self-sabotage. These behaviors block love, money, and other good things in life. Your ego-mind wants to protect you from the burden of blessings you believe you don't deserve.

Why is that?

In terms of Science/Energy: How you do anything is how you do everything. If you withhold anything from yourself, such as love or esteem, you unconsciously influence others (even the Universe itself) to withhold love and approval from you because they follow your lead.

In terms of Spirit/Consciousness:  What you do to one, you do to all – because we are all One. If you cannot accept your Self, what can you accept?

If you are at war with your Self, how will you ever create the peace that Love and Money need to take root and blossom in your life?

If I accept myself as I am, won’t that take away my motivation to improve myself, my income, my love life, or anything else?

In fact, you cannot change anything until you accept it. Until the moment of acceptance, you are fighting yourself or the situation you wish to change - which keeps you locked in the problem.

By contrast, acceptance lifts you above the problem so you can find a solution.

For instance, if you want to release excess weight, as long as you tell yourself “I’m so fat!” you’re effectively cementing fat molecules to your hips by affirming your fatness.

Enlightened self-acceptance sounds like: “I feel too heavy. I want to slim down. What is one thing I can do today to start making that happen?”

As soon as you ask the question, answers will start coming to you. You are free to reject the answers and ask for new ones or to accept one or two suggestions and start acting upon them.

I think I have high self-esteem, but I’m still not seeing anywhere near as much love or money in my life as I would like. What’s up with that?

Maybe you don’t have as much self-esteem as you think you do.

Or perhaps you intellectually accept yourself, while withholding acceptance on the emotional or unconscious level: you think you accept yourself while you feel unworthy of acceptance. 

This creates inner conflict, which undercuts your efforts to manifest love and money because your heart or feelings generate 60 times more energy than your brain or thoughts (per HeartMath Institute findings).

How I can tell if I have less self-esteem than I think?

Here are some tip-offs:

  • You have lovely glasses, plates, and silverware, but you never use them if you’re eating by yourself. 
  • You brush aside compliments like “I love your sweater!” with dismissive comments like, “I got it on sale” or “What, this old thing?” 
  • You shrug off appreciative words like “Thank you for doing that!” with “No problem” or “Just doing my job.” 
  • You notice a bruise on the banana or apple you’re eating, and you eat the bruised part anyway. 
  • You say “Yes” when you really want to say “No.”
  • You pretend something is okay when it is Seriously. Not. Okay.

If it’s true that how you do anything is how you do everything, each of these examples indicates the presence of an unconscious pattern of rejecting yourself.

It is impossible to close your heart against yourself and open it up to love, money, or success. It doesn’t work that way. A stone wall keeps out everything, both good and bad.

When you accept yourself, you open to accepting your good ... to accepting love ... wealth ... even accepting the answer to your prayers.

Okay, let’s say I’m recognizing myself in some of these examples. What can I do?

Here are three places to begin:

1. Sign up for the FREE tip sheet "3 Things You Can Do to Instantly Feel More Confident"

If you are done with feeling small, scared, or stuck, so you can ...​

  • Give your talk
  • Handle your airplane's takeoff and landing just fine
  • Start a blog or podcast about your passion
  • Feel calm and confident on a first date
  • Meet new clients with confidence
  • Handle whatever comes next when your loved one says, "Honey, we need to talk"
  • Create a new book, article, or video
  • Do what you feel called to do
  • Find a way to make a living doing what you love

Or something even better and more meaningful to you ...

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2. Get FREE healing, clearing, and transformation from inspiring interviews with Moira

You will find on this page a number of interviews, all relating to believing in yourself, to help you develop the confidence you need to create a life you love.

Just find a topic you find appealing and click on "play" to stream the interview right on your computer or mobile device.

3. Consider Getting Personal Guidance.

If you would rather talk to a person than read articles or listen to audios, I am here for you. I love working with people like you one-on-one.

We can meet by phone or Zoom, so wherever you live – I am just a call or click away.

It would be an honor to guide you in developing the confidence you need to create the life you want.

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If you would like to know in advance what it would be like to work with me, you can listen to my interviews to get a feel for my style and the way I work - plus, you'll get free healings as you listen.

If what you hear resonates with you, or you experience a healing and you want more, you can book a private session with me by going here.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, my dear!